From the book 'Coaching Is for Everyone'

Knowledge is power.

If you're not having fun, you're not doing it right.

When you know how to be your own coach, you can influence relationships with coaching skills. If you truly know how to listen to others and connect with them, you can become a better parent, boss, and person. When advising others, expressing opinions, or making suggestions, you do so lovingly. When you learn to accept others without prejudice and allow them to shine in their uniqueness, you create relationships based on trust and love. You master coaching skills, yet you don't feel the need to give people advice. You know what questions to ask and how to observe others, while not being attached to their decisions, as you give them enough space to decide. You present your observations in a way that they always feel your support and remain accountable for their actions.

Life should be viewed lightly.

Good communication brings us information, allows us to express feelings, and makes us feel important.

Limitations should not discourage you. Face them.

Accept the fact that you will let go of things from the past. The quality of your life will improve, and you will find that you are no longer willing to accept everything. This will happen in a gentle, loving way. You will distance yourself from relationships that drain your energy, ask people to respect your rules and boundaries, and complete things from the past. These changes may be stressful. It's best to acknowledge that they are indeed happening, that they are stressful but temporary, and that you will eventually live more simply.

Tune in to your uniqueness:

1. Inner uniqueness: It can include traits such as wisdom, energy, courage, willingness, responsibility, sense of humor, calmness, serenity, intelligence, generosity, adventurous spirit,...
2. Work skills: These include technical skills, education, professional achievements, knowledge, judgment ability, communication skills, precision, leadership skills, teamwork ability.
3. External resources: These encompass everything from professional networks to friends, from bankers to lawyers. You must utilize all resources that could help you advance.

Personal critical gaps:

1. Gaps in limitations and rules: Signs of such a gap include feeling overwhelmed, inability to say no, poor time management, poor organization, and underestimating oneself compared to others.
2. The next gap relates to self-worth. Signs of this gap are feeling that nothing is working out, lack of belief in one's abilities, and insufficient reflection on one's strengths.
3. A common gap in our society relates to support. It means either you lack support from others (which would help you progress) or you haven't asked for it. Signs: feeling lonely, fear of loneliness, feeling that others in life do not support you.
4. Gap in resources: lack of resources is expressed in areas of money, support, love, advantages, willingness.
5. Gap in commitment: it concerns your belief that you cannot realize your dreams. Signs include lack of readiness to act, lots of words but little action, and numerous ideas without a plan.
6. Gap in direction: in this case, you probably don't know where you want to go and what you want to change. The harbinger of this gap is restlessness, yet you cannot express which things you do with passion and enjoyment.

External critical gaps:

1. Gap in money: signs include thoughts about lack of money, unwillingness to think about financial matters, or lack of profit in your business path.
2. Gap related to skills, education, knowledge, and experience: it occurs when you do not have the appropriate skills and education to do what you want to do. Signs include a mismatch between the skills you should have to succeed in achieving set goals and your current skills, experience, and education.
3. Gap in professional resources: This arises when you lack the professional support needed to achieve career goals – for example, contacts in the desired industry, money, or advice. Complaining about the present obscures your view of the future.

Unconsciously, you often focus on what you don't have – neglecting what you do have.

Success is a journey, not a destination, so let courage and enthusiasm never fade.

Aim for the moon, and you might knock down a star.

Wishes are just dreams, but they can be realized if you set a goal and plan how to achieve it.

Truth is neither beautiful nor ugly. Why should it be? Truth is truth.

Formulate a plan: many people do not achieve their goals because they do not have an appropriate plan to assist them. Every good plan includes: a description of the goal, an outline of the steps to achieve it, a list of resources needed to reach the goal, a list of available resources, and a list of resources that need to be sought. Additionally, a good plan includes a timeline for when you will achieve the goals and a clear description of the steps. A good plan also anticipates how to maintain momentum if it's a long-term project and ways to measure progress. To create a good plan, you must ask yourself uncomfortable questions during the planning process. Above all, you must be able to critically assess whether you will achieve the goal with the help of the plan, what obstacles you might encounter along the way, and how committed you will need to be to realize the plan.

Adults often lose the sense of trying new things. We forget about imagination, adventure, freedom, and enjoyment.

Without playfulness, there is no creative work. We can't even imagine how much we owe to the playfulness of imagination.

It is not the strongest or the smartest species that survive, but those that can best respond to changes.

Summary from the book Coaching Is for Everyone by Terru Levine